Rose McGowan spoke out in protection of Asia Argento after the loss of life of Anthony Bourdain, Argento’s boyfriend, in an e mail early Monday morning.
McGowan, who’s a buddy of Argento’s, despatched an e mail to members of the press saying that Bourdain and Argento “had a free relationship.”
“They loved without borders of traditional relationships, and they established the parameters of their relationship early on,” she wrote. “Asia is a free bird, and so was Anthony. Was. Such a terrible word to write.”
The movie star chef was discovered lifeless in a French lodge Friday after killing himself. Argento, who has been a prominent voice within the #MeToo motion after accusing Harvey Weinstein of sexual assault, tweeted that she was “beyond devastated” that she misplaced her boyfriend Friday.
“Anthony gave all of himself in the whole lot that he did. His good, fearless spirit touched and impressed so many, and his generosity knew no bounds,” she wrote. “He was my love, my rock, my protector. I’m past devastated. My ideas are along with his household.”
McGowan’s consultant despatched a press release from Argento confirming that McGowan had her blessing to talk on her behalf.
“On behalf of me and all who are hurting because of this unfathomable loss, I have asked the strongest woman I know, Rose McGowan, to be my voice, to help me shoulder this burden and write truth,” Argento stated in a press release via her consultant. “Please read these words and have mercy on our pain.”
“I know before Anthony died he reached out for help, and yet he did not take the doctor’s advice. And that has led us here, to this tragedy, to this loss, to this world of hurt,” McGowan wrote in an e mail.
“Do NOT do the sexist thing and burn a woman on the pyre of misplaced blame. Anthony’s internal war was his war, but now she’s been left on the battlefield to take the bullets. It is in no way fair or acceptable to blame her or anyone else, not even Anthony.”
Here’s the total textual content of the e-mail:
Dear Fellow Humans,
Sitting throughout from me is the outstanding human and courageous survivor, Asia Argento, who has been via greater than most may stand, and but stand she does. She stood as much as her monster rapist and now she has to face as much as one more monster, suicide. The suicide of her beloved lover and ally, Anthony Bourdain. I write these truths as a result of I’ve been requested to. I do know so many around the globe considered Anthony Bourdain as a buddy and when a buddy dies, it hurts. Many of those individuals who misplaced their ‘friend’ are desirous to lash out and blame. You should not sink to that degree. Suicide is a horrible alternative, however it’s that particular person’s alternative.
When Anthony met Asia, it was instantaneous chemistry. They laughed, they liked and he was her rock throughout the hardships of this final yr. Anthony was open along with his demons, he even wrote a ebook about them. In the start of their relationship, Anthony instructed a mutual buddy, “He’s never met anyone who wanted to die more than him.” And via lots of this final yr, Asia did need the ache to cease. But right here’s the factor, over their time collectively, fortunately, she did the work to get assist, so she may keep alive and dwell one other day for her and her kids. Anthony’s despair didn’t let him, he put down his armor, and that was very a lot his alternative. His choice, not hers. His despair received. Anthony and Asia had a free relationship, they liked with out borders of conventional relationships, and so they established the parameters of their relationship early on. Asia is a free chicken, and so was Anthony. Was. Such a horrible phrase to jot down. I’ve heard from many who the previous two years they had been collectively had been a few of his happiest and that ought to give us all solace.
Anthony was 61, the identical age my father was when he died. My father additionally suffered from intermittent deep despair, and like Anthony, was a part of a “pull up your bootstraps and march on” era. The a “strong man doesn’t ask for help” era. I do know earlier than Anthony died he reached out for assist, and but he didn’t take the physician’s recommendation. And that has led us right here, to this tragedy, to this loss, to this world of harm. Do NOT do the sexist factor and burn a girl on the pyre of misplaced blame. Anthony’s inner battle was his battle, however now she’s been left on the battlefield to take the bullets. It is under no circumstances truthful or acceptable in charge her or anybody else, not even Anthony. We are asking you to be higher, to look deeper, to learn and find out about psychological sickness, suicide and despair earlier than you make it worse for survivors by judging that which we don’t perceive, that which might by no means absolutely be understood. Sometimes we’re caught within the unknowable, and that’s the place we at the moment are, a large wave of darkness that threatens to swallow everybody in its wake.
As I watch Asia do her job on set at the moment, I see a pillar of power who continues to work to place meals on her kids’s desk. I see Elizabeth Taylor carrying on filming Cat on a Hot Tin Roof regardless of her love, her husband, dying in a airplane crash. I see all of us who’ve carried on. Please be a part of me in sending therapeutic power to Anthony on his journey, and to all who’ve been left behind to journey on with out him. There is nobody in charge however the stigma of loneliness, the stigma of asking for assist, the stigma of psychological sickness, the stigma of being well-known and hurting.
We should do extra and be higher. Anthony, our buddy, would need it that approach.
To the media and to the random commenter, Anthony would by no means have wished Asia to be harm, I’d prefer to suppose he would need us to have the collective dialog that must be had about despair. Blame is NOT a dialog, it’s the shutting down of our collective progress. Which is the place we at the moment are. We have a alternative as people, shrink to our smaller, uglier selves, or be higher and develop as solely true Phoenixes can. I urge you to be that Phoenix.
With nice disappointment and even higher hope, I stay,
cc: Asia Argento
Kate Aurthur and Alison Willmore contributed extra reporting to this story.